“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” ― Ecclesiastes 4:9–10
A person with a profound physical disability or impairment needs the help of others to commit suicide. In asking for help, he or she will turn to the close ones, such as wife, husband, or children. A physical able person, however, can commit suicide alone, but, sometimes, he or she looks for a companion.
Some suicide pacts have been fruitful, such as two friends who committed suicide at a Manhattan hotel, three young Chinese men[Archive] whose one of their fathers quested[Archive] for his telos after the suicide of his son, as well as Columbine High School shooters. This page expounds the risks to help you make a circumspect decision.
First and foremost, check out your local law, but what you read here almost certainly applies to you. To put it simply, think of suicide as a crime. Making plans to commit a crime with someone else is called conspiracy, and itself is a crime. In some situations, backing out, change of heart, and not telling police officers (i.e., negligence[Archive] in calling for help) can be interpreted as misleding and charged with encouraging suicide. Also, providing psychological support[Archive], an environment, or cicumestances for suicide can still be labeled as assistance suicide hence a crime.
Where a person survives a suicide pact, the enquiry will be dealt with as a criminal investigation, with due consideration being given to offences under the Suicide Act. In the U.K., for instance, it is an offence for a person to aid, abet, counsel or procure the suicide or attempted suicide of another. Assisted suicide is giving, selling, or transferring a fee, a flight ticket, a device, or a physical substance to be used in committing the suicide. For example, selling legal substances (e.g., sodium nitrite or sodium azide) let alone controlled substances (e.g., opiates) knowingly for the purpose of committing suicide is illegal. Causing or aiding, without the use of duress or deception, another person to commit suicide results in being convicted of manslaughter (not murder). If, as part of a suicide pact, you actually commit the act that kills the other person, you’ve committed murdered. A few example are administering the drugs to the other person, shooting the other person, pushing the other person from the edge, or slitting the wrist[Archive] of other person.
If the investigating officer believes or suspects that a death may be attributed to a suicide pact or other criminal activity, they will
- treat the death as suspicious in the first instance
- recover all computers, mobile telephones, and media devices so that they can be examined for communication and social networking site activity, which may contain evidence or information relevant to the investigation (officers should also consider obtaining all relevant passwords from the next of kin)
- inform a detective inspector (in cases of suicide involving more than one person, the matter should be referred to a crime investigations department for investigation).
Forming suicide pact safety tips
Meeting new people is exciting, but you should always be cautious when interacting with someone you don’t know. Use your best judgment and put your safety first, whether you are exchanging initial messages or meeting in person. While you can’t control the actions of others, there are things you can do to help you stay safe during your Sanctioned Suicide experience.
There are many risks involved in meeting a stranger, including but not limited to being lied to, being used for personal gain or morbid pleasure, being blackmailed, being pranked, meeting pro-lifers, relatives, or police, things going wrong for one of the partners, changes of heart, sexual assault, issues with the authorities, differences between partners, human trafficking, organ harvesting.
- Never send money or share financial information
Never send money, especially over wire transfer, even if the person claims to be in an emergency. Wiring money is like sending cash — it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace where the money went. Never share information that could be used to access your financial accounts. If another user asks you for money, report it to the admins immediately.
- Protect your personal information
Never share personal information, such as your social security number, home or work address, or details about your daily routine (e.g., that you go to a certain gym every Monday) with people you don’t know. If you are a parent, limit the information that you share about your children on your profile and in early communications. Avoid sharing details such as your children’s names, where they go to school, or their ages or genders.
- Stay on the platform
Keep conversations on the Sanctioned Suicide platform while you’re getting to know someone. Users with bad intentions or privacy concerns often try to move the conversation to text, messaging apps, email, or phone right away.
- Be wary of long distance and overseas suicide pacts
Watch out for scammers who claim to be from your country but stuck somewhere else, especially if they ask for financial help to return home. Be wary of anyone who will not meet in person or talk on a phone/video call—they may not be who they say they are. If someone is avoiding your questions or pushing for a serious suicide pact without meeting or getting to know you first — that’s a red flag.
- Report all suspicious and offensive behavior
You know when someone’s crossed the line and when they do, we want to know about it. Block and report anyone that violates our terms. Here are some examples of violations:
- Requests for money or donations
- Harassment, threats, and offensive messages
- Inappropriate or harmful behavior during or after meeting in person
- Fraudulent profiles
- Spam or solicitation including links to commercial websites or attempts to sell products or services
You can report any concerns about suspicious behavior to the admins.
- Protect your account
Be sure to pick a strong password, and always be careful when logging into your account from a public or shared computer. Sanctioned Suicide will never send you an email asking for your username and password information — if you receive an email asking for account information, report it immediately.
Meeting in person
- Don’t be in a rush
Take your time and get to know the other person before agreeing to meet or chat off Sanctioned Suicide. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to screen for any red flags or personal dealbreakers. A phone or video call can be a useful screening tool before meeting.
- Meet in public and stay in public
Meet for the first few times in a populated, public place — never at your home, your partner’s home, or any other private location. If your partner pressures you to go to a private location, end the suicide pact.
- Tell friends and family about your plans (not the suicide itself)
Tell a friend or family member of your plans (not the suicide itself), including when and where you’re going. Have your cell phone charged and with you at all times.
- Be in control of your transportation
We want you to be in control of how you get to and from your meeting so that you can leave whenever you want. If you’re driving yourself, it’s a good idea to have a backup plan such as a ride-share app or a friend to pick you up.
- Know your limits
Be aware of the effects of drugs or alcohol on you specifically — they can impair your judgment and your alertness. If your suicide partner tries to pressure you to use drugs or drink more than you’re comfortable with, hold your ground and end the suicide pact.
- Don’t leave drinks or personal items unattended
Know where your drink comes from and know where it is at all times — only accept drinks poured or served directly from the bartender or server. Many substances that are slipped into drinks to facilitate sexual assault are odorless, colorless, and tasteless. Also, keep your phone, purse, wallet, and anything containing personal information on you at all times.
- If you feel uncomfortable, leave
It’s okay to end the suicide pact early if you’re feeling uncomfortable. In fact, it’s encouraged. And if your instincts are telling you something is off or you feel unsafe, ask the bartender or server for help.
Committing the suicide
If you kill your self—not yourself—from your view, you’ll live at the now. Yourself is your life, your time, or your lifetime. If you kill yourself, from your view, past and future cease to exist.
Talk about it
Communication is everything: Before you get physically committing the act, talk about suicide. And be aware that it’s actually a crime to knowingly assist suicide. It’s totally normal for the conversation to feel a little awkward, but you’ll feel better once you get it over with. And you never know—your partner might be glad you brought it up.
Here are some ways to start the conversation about your judicious choice:
- This is hard for me to talk about, but I care about you and I think it’s important. How do you feel about going out together?
- FYI, I’ll have been catched the bus by next month, and I don’t have a sense of foreboding about my choice. It cannot be helped. I’ll ride to the terminus. Have you ever been to the bus station? I want us to make sure we’re taking care of each other.
- I think it’s important to be honest, so I want to tell you that I want to catch the bust next month, and found out I have nothing left to do or to lose. I took medicine, and I don’t have it anymore. But it showed me how common and sneaky medicines are. I feel much better being off medicine; have you ever been on medicine?
- Try to stay calm and remember that you’re not the only one dealing with this: Millions of people have committed suicide, and plenty of them are en route. Try to go into the conversation with a calm, positive attitude. Having desire to commit suicide is simply a social issue, and it doesn’t mean anything about you as a person.
- Know your facts: There are a lot of myths about suicide out there, so read up on the facts and be ready to answer your partner’s questions. Let your partner know there are medicines that cannot cure or help treat your suicidality. Safer suicide can also help protect your partner.
- Think about timing: Pick a time when you won’t be distracted or interrupted, and choose a place that’s private and relaxed. If you’re nervous, you can practice out loud to yourself. It may sound strange, but practicing saying the words can help you figure out exactly what you want to say and feel more confident when you talk to your partner.
All suicide activity must start with consent and should include ongoing check-ins with your partner. Verbal communication can help you and your partner ensure that you respect each other’s boundaries. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, and suicide is never owed to anyone. Do not proceed if your partner seems uncomfortable or unsure, or if your partner is unable to consent due to the effects of drugs or alcohol. Read more about it here.