Road to Hero
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ― H. Jackson Brown Jr., American author
This webpage is to lighten the pathway on which you might be. Although some readers might be familiar with these steps, not everyone who commits suicide takes the same steps with the same arrangement, alike to stages of grief and loss that are different for everyone. Nor does being on this pathway mean you should kill yourself. It is rather to let you know about the possible setbacks (and remedies) you encounter on the road.
- 1 The beginning of the finale
- 1.1 Losing interest in life and pursuing different passions
- 1.2 Visualization
- 1.3 Companionship
- 1.4 Goal setting
- 1.5 Shallow tricks
- 1.6 Inoculation
- 1.7 Dealing with a loved one
- 1.8 Handling anti-choicers in person
- 2 Fighting back
- 3 The end of the war
- 4 Police and mental health
- 5 References
The beginning of the finale
Suicide warning signs imply that you’ve lost your life or your life has lost you. First from possessions, life evolves into experiencing moments and having emotions, then into ultimate adventure to unite with unmet devotions. Finally, it’s summarized into momentary observations. This is a way to discipline your dissipation, to end your distress and dissociation, and to shortcut to everything and nothing.
Losing interest in life and pursuing different passions
Life is about joy and fun. Acceptance of your life rises from 2 types of contributing factors: negative (e.g., anhedonia, fatigue, as well as not willing to fight) and positive (e.g., the belief in going to heaven and reaching desires, the belief in reincarnation and past lives, as well as reunion). The ones who succeed don’t think about the peace and freedom when doing it—actually, they think about the passion, the joy of passing away, and the chance to do something they always wanted to do. They think of being released from the encumbrance of life—manifested in remorse, aggression, and anxiety. They think about fulfilling their dreams, and only those who love what they do will achieve it. You have the right to do anything to achieve redemption, salvation, and forgiveness.
For a start, imagine yourself winning and losing, experiencing the thrill of victory and agony of defeat. Positive experiences can add to the the excitement and the passion of the act, such as the relief and excitement you felt when you prepared your method or accidentally cut yourself. Often negative experiences and pain have played out as a good motivator in your life. Imagine yourself losing your method or the deadline you have set. Sometimes, your life is too short to reach where you want—and by the time you get there, it might be too late. If that doesn’t get your blood boiling anymore, it’s time to move on from your life. Those who are lifeless sit on the sidelines and fantasize about one day doing it. They become another random player in the crowd. On the other hand, those who are motivated and ambitious works to achieve their goals.
Whenever you lost something important in life, you made compromises. Was your life worth the reward you received? How badly will your decision affect you? Is the satisfaction you get from this decision worth possibly jeopardizing your dreams? You may have different answers for these questions—having reassured yourself that if worse comes to worst, you won’t be here anymore—so you didn’t much plan for staying. No one can be 100% committed to leaving all the time, but it is important to be aware of the situation. Just knowing that you’ll be sitting on the bus is a feeling that would be enough to fuel even the smallest of egos, making you feel unstoppable. When you’re running high on these positive emotions, your motivation will just flow. The euphoria after achievement from setting goals and accomplishing them is an amazing feeling. Don’t feel guilty. Guilty people keep all the good things to themselves. That’s why they don’t want you to have the peace—even through premeditation and commitment.
Visualization can be used to mentally prepare for practices. Once you’re mentally prepared for your attempt, whenever the time comes, you can perform it much better than a shocked mind. Impulsive attempts have a lower success rate than premeditated ones. You can effectively overcome your fears by planning out and visualizing. You can also reconnoiter the spot to have a vivid image of it. Pondering about the length of the attempt and its intricacies will lead you into entering the attempt with a blueprint for success that can be followed to completion, as opposed to being drudged through.
There are two key principles to keep in mind when practicing visualization. First, your practice needs to be consistent. Visualizing freeing yourself from your state takes commitment. 10 minutes a day every day will always beat an intense hour long session once a week. Owing to visualization sessions, successful people look at their method and visualize how or when they will use it. Second, the best time of doing it is when the mind is slightly lucid, because the lucid mind easily conjures up images. Visualize it either first thing in the morning (as close to waking as possible) or right before falling asleep. Visualizing your attempt right before falling asleep, the black out, spurs a sense of panic or insomnia. That sense is the survival instinct that you’ll eventually learn to control. The second key principle is you need to stay positive. Wherever your current level is, nurture it and allow it to grow.
There are two perspectives in visualization: being disassociated (i.e., having third-person view) and being associated (i.e., having first-person view). It is commonly accepted that being associated in visualization (i.e., looking out from your body just as you would if you were really there) is the more powerful of the two perspectives. However, being disassociated also has some really valuable uses. As an example, in jumping, it can be useful for a suicidal person to disassociate from the visualization to better understand the nuances of how their body looks when they move. You may have practiced dissociation through a painful incident in the past to gain wisdom from it. The key is to play around with being both associated and dissociated to find out what works best for you. Even if you don’t end up killing yourself, it’s useful to learn how to disassociate and associate.
A visualization without feeling is like a suicidal person without method. Two schemes to pump emotion into the performance are (1) painting with more color and (2) spinning the dial. Painting with more color is adding color and brightness to your visualization thus adding more energy to it. Spinning the dial is subduing the intensity of emotions only to agitate them, with the intention of mastering the emotions.
Having other people around, particularly during the attempt, can be great for some. However, forming a Suicide Pact imposes great dangers. A safer alternative is having an exemplar, someone who is resting in cemetery. An exemplar emulates you to strive until the day you join your role model. Having inspiration from the success of those who were similar benefits the unmotivated person to get to the finish line.
Setting goals is simple and vital. Goals should be set both for performance on the days and the weeks prior the attempt. The true beauty of goal setting is that (in your mind) there is a target date, which shocks you to work harder so that you do not fail.
People make peace with whatever is holding them back by using depression or aggression. Both of them commonly lead to nowhere, but that’s enough to move on.
In the framework of law, do whatever you wanted to do, cause there’s no tomorrow. Take your time watching and absorbing whatever trivial sight that recently seemed extraordinary to you, since you won’t be here forever. Write down your bucket list and start crossing out as many items as you can. You’ll get to a point that you need to make compromises for the items on the list. The trick is being mentally strong, relaxing, and having fun.
If the mind is dedicated enough, it can make the body do anything, so it becomes easy to go through the motions when it is necessary. Watching people who have succeeded helps you to have a third-person view when attempting. Gore sites are great for such purpose since they features many great people who have succeeded with variety of methods. Methods are means (to become truly independent of schlepping life) not the end.
People who want you to succeed accept you for who you are, right now, including your shortcomings. They’re not out for what they can get from you. They don’t selfishly want to see you suffer so they can feel better about themselves. They don’t insist that you change to suit them, and they don’t insist you not change because it suits them; instead, they encourage you to be the best person you can be. That’s the kind of person you want on your team if you want to achieve your goals. People who personally don’t want you to succeed fall into two categories:
- Those who insist you change: These people formed an image of how they expect you to be, and they vocally try everything in the book to get you to fit that image—usually by medicating and hospitalizing the person you are right now (a non-adherer to life principles) in the name of “trying to help.” But whether you do try to fit this vague image of what these people expect you to be, they still won’t like you. They’ve already made up their mind that you’re not in with their crowd; they just want to destroy any confidence you have in yourself.
- Those who insist you don’t change: These people covertly try to convince you that you’re “fine as you are,” and that you shouldn’t have to change for anybody. They sound innocent enough, don’t they? If a person isn’t changing or adapting to different circumstances, they’re essentially not growing: they’re staying in exactly the same position as they were yesterday, three weeks ago, or three years ago. This means they’re staying exactly the same person as they were before; they become predictable. These people who don’t want you to change want you to stay the same, not because they like you, but because they like what they can get from you. They see you like most employers, recruitment people, and anybody who doesn’t value people: they see you as a resource.
Both categories of people have one thing in common: they both have a vested interest in you staying the same and sacrificing for them. They want to anchor you.
These people are comfortable trying to fit or keep you inside a mold. They like things exactly as they are, because they get what they want as long as things are the way they are. These people often hide behind the mantra “that’s just the way it is” or “that’s life” as an endorsement of how things are right now, because it benefits them. Being exposed to change of any kind would disrupt their world as it is, and that scares them since they don’t like the idea of losing what they have. If someone else became successful, it would put them in an awkward position of “why am I not successful, too?” Even people in the first category are really just trying to put you down and convince you you’re no good, so that you’ll withdraw and won’t be able to change anyway. They want you have to keep living to prove to them that you were worthy of living.
Of course, if you do become successful and ascend, both categories of people will be happy to act like nothing has happened—despite they can’t punish you by sending your corpse to psychiatric hospital—no more. In the current medical system, hospitals and the medical-industrial complex have more to gain for keeping you, a customer, alive and continuously treating your illness in lieu of permanently curing it. But, if you permanently cure yourself, they find your corpse and put it on an altar as an offering for their own anit-choice agendas. They offer your corpse for the sake of saving lives (as well as their own lives), because they feel you were part of them, not a seperate being. So they have to turn you into an offering to become worthy of having had been with you or to make you worthy of having had been with them—and to prevent their loss from being in vain. See Censorship.
If you succeed, all of a sudden, they’ve had your back all along, lying in wait to wish you safe travel on your journey. Wearing woebegone expressions, they hold funeral for your corpse to prove their goodwill to each other and to honorably discharge you from their lives. You might at one point in your life have been surrounded by people whom you knew didn’t want you to succeed, and did everything in their power to make sure you suffered and would never recover. Maybe you’ve been around people who’ve liked nothing more than to kill your unborn dreams—then, criticize you for being unmotivated.
Given how vacillating people can be, the rest is some tips on how to inoculate yourself before encountering with predators, proselytizers, or anti-choicers (including pro-lifers and force-lifers). Contrary to what it seems, the following tips, spiced up with Youtube videos, are not a path to suicide or death rather a path to carte blanche: to self-consciously form the essence of the course of life you choose to lead.
Dealing with a loved one
Your loved ones have to learn to accept that death will happen and that it is part of life. You can’t change other people or control what other people do; you should let go of that. If you want to prepare your loved ones for what will happen, you can indirectly hint the subject. The subject can be as simple as what ultimately will happen to every living being. Before talking about suicide, check out the law in your jurisdiction—namely, Conrad’s Law. Disclosing your suicide inclinations might put your loved ones at risk. Providing an emotional relief, even a simple hug with no words, to a you can be considered as providing support for suicide. To put the matter simplistically, think of suicide attempt as wanton or reckless conduct, finishing suicide as murder, and your loved ones are becoming a partner in crime, should they not report you to the authorities, because they’ve committed wanton or reckless failure to act. Making plans to commit a crime with someone else is called conspiracy, and itself is a crime. Technically, there are 4 types of suicide: the ones that kill themselves are committing
(1) first degree murder: premeditated, with a plan or a prepared method;
(2) second-degree murder: minor, labeled as mentally ill, abused, under medication, or have no criminal record;
(3) voluntary manslaughter: impulsive, driven by the heat of passion;
(4) involuntary manslaughter: self harming, with no intention of dying.
Both defendant and plaintiff (in one body) die at suicide. To bar more self killing, suicide was decriminalized into lawful homicide so that more people seek mental health help. Also, the deceased is no longer punished posthumously because, in anit-choicers’ mindset, he or she (a victim) did not have a choice—unlike pro-choicers who think the deceased (a killer) did have a choice and chose to die. Consequently, in pro-choice, the question of “when is it okay to die?” boils down to “in general, when is it okay to kill anyone, including oneself, or to be killed by anyone, including oneself?” The more sacrifice humans make, the less choices they have. The more they kill—with reasons, of course—the more choices they will have. Two of the conventional reasons for killing, not for being killed, are using lethal force in self-defence and retribution for crime. But killing results in loss of humanity; someone else or something else has to compensate for the act of killing, so that the humanity be preserved. Then, with regard to the choice, the ultimate question is “do you, as one person, even need to act, further than thinking?”
In February 2018, a 56-year-old man pleaded guilty[Archive] in Caroline County District Court to one count of “attempted suicide” and was sentenced to a three-year suspended jail sentence, and two years of probation. As criminals have blunted autonomic functioning (Ling, Umbach & Raine, 2019), those who commit rational suicide feel calm, neither excited nor frightened.
- Change the subject: If this is the first time your loved one has tried to explain to you why your beliefs about life are wrong and theirs are right, try changing the subject as gracefully as you can.
- Don’t be defensive: The problem with anti-choicers is that they occasionally have multiple attempts to show you the “right way.” However, if you want choice to not be an issue that comes up over and over, then do your best to approach them lovingly. If you behave defensively towards them, it demonstrates to them that you are not secure in your own beliefs, and that they may have a chance to change your mind.
- Explain to them that you’re not interested in changing: You’re loved ones sermonize you into anti-choicers’ religion. Or they may piously pat you with life. Either way, they routinely espouse life. For some, it may be enough if politely explain that, while you respect that they have their own religious convictions, yours are different, and that you aren’t interested in being reformed.
- Allow them to express their beliefs: Realize that there is a difference between a loved one simply talking about their own beliefs in therapy and trying to convert you to their religion of life. While it’s easy enough to identify people we know as friends and even complete strangers as being saboteurs, the hardest thing is when those people holding you back are family members. Either way it’s difficult when you’re living with them and have nowhere else to go. As much as possible, keep your aspirations hidden from anyone you suspect is trying to bring you down. If you do reveal them to someone, bear this in mind that people who want the idea to work will run with it and offer suggestions, whereas those who want it to fail will be deliberately vague and have you focusing on the wrong things.
Your dreams cost them their dreams, not their lives, and nothing can be done about it. Dreams flourish and perish; life goes on; suicide is not illegal. Therefore, you’re not doing anything wrong.
Handling anti-choicers in person
You will be unable to form intent after switching to a new prescription drug. Such drugs can impair judgment, wisdom, understanding, love, and empathy—especially in the adolescent brain, which is still developing and is more susceptible to harm and all intrusions. Adverse changes also can occur when doses change.
Suicide prevention hotline
“If you want to succeed, don’t tell anyone. It is better not to tell people who you want to be. (Psychology Today).” Crisis text line and suicide hot lines are honey-pots to track nonbelievers’ location. If anti-choicers feel crisis or suicide threat, regardless of you not giving them your location explicitly, they can and will send police to your location to force life on you. Police come knocking at your house at any hour. Crisis hotline workers also can refuse to stay with you in your final moments.
What pro-lifers don’t mention is how these hotlines can (and will) trace the person, whether via voice, call, or text, if they have knowledge or believe that the caller is in imminent danger. No one will ever make that public, because it would really make people stop calling. That’s how the law is set up. It’s confidential in the fact that pro-lifers don’t turn around and tell the newspaper how many people call them a day or repeat what you’ve said to them in any detail with someone that you haven’t cleared. If someone is an imminent danger to themselves, what’s stopping him or her from changing target to another person? Crisis hotline numbers are posted there so people can say “I did something to help,” but the crisis hotlines are not forcing you to contact them.
These crisis hotline operators (or volunteers) have such wide latitudes in determining what is or isn’t a threat that if they believe (incorrectly) that the caller is a threat to himself, herself, or others, they will escalate and report that to the authorities. The other problem with that is where is the recourse for the caller when done in error? There isn’t in most cases (albeit very, very rare circumstances—and, even then, it’s very difficult) as there are “good faith” laws and even the legal system gives them so much flexibility. Good faith laws trust your destiny to anti-choicers who don’t trust you with your own body. The anti-choicers’ system has so much power over the caller or individual, and odds are heavily stacked against the individual calling. This is the disingenuous and deceptive practices that these operators and hotlines do that most people aren’t aware of.
Answering the door
Never allow an officer to search your apartment or car. Don’t think for a minute that you can trust police who seem to be open-minded and undecided about whether they will arrest you; you are a suspect in their view. As two examples in China, posting self-harm photos[Archive] or suspicious online shopping[Archive] got two people in trouble. The shopped items were charcoal and transparent tape. As well as suspicious purchases[Archive] for homemade chemistry experiments.
If they came through the door, there is no reason to be rude or aggressive. You may not agree with their myths or their way of trying to arrest and section you, but being rude won’t make the situation any more comfortable.
They probably won’t give up right away
Anti-choicers used to having people turn them down, so they probably won’t be phased by your explanation. They may have counter arguments for why you should let them in to hear about their superstitions and all the ways their religion is the right one. “For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths. (2 Timothy 4:3-4)” But you balance the bitter flavor of truth with laughter.
Don’t say a single word about your beliefs
Don’t talk with a police officer or a government agent. You can easily be detained for your guilty thoughts and blasphemies. Also, it’s a felony to lie to a police officer or a government agent, and, in the U.S., you may be send to prison for up to five years.
Some questions don’t have direct, related answers that won’t get you in more troubles. As such questions, there’s no direct answers to “do you have a suicide means?” Answering “yes” implies that you pose a danger to (at least) yourself because (you are presumably unstable and) you have a lethal means, whereas answering “no” implies that you are lying because you have a kitchen knife or a piece of fabric that you can use to kill yourself with—regardless of you having the intention of using them. Either way, the direct answer works in your disadvantage.
How to avoid being sectioned under the Mental Health Act
Sadly, the police look at behavior, appearance, and other information in deciding whether to take you into custody for referral to a mental health service. If, for example, someone called the police and said that you are suicidal, this does not mean that they will succeed in picking you up. In this case, you need to behave confidently, as if nothing had happened. Their call could cost you several thousand or tens of thousands of dollars after forced treatment, which means you have to be asseverate and act decisively. Convince them that everything is alright and tell that the call was false. Pretend that you are interested in how to write a statement to the police about a false denunciation.
Your primary objective is to make sure that you do not say anything that could be used against you. First, you need to make sure that your silence is not held against you as evidence of your guilt. Second, you also need to make sure that you get the police to stop questioning you and leave you alone.
If a police officer encounters you, he or she has every right to ask you two simple questions. Memorize these two questions so you will not be tempted to answer any others: Who are you? What are you doing right here, right now? Those are the only two things you should tell the police officer in that context, and they are both in the present tense. (You might as well cooperate with such a request, by the way, because the Fifth Amendment does not normally give you the right to refuse to tell the police your name anyway.) That is it. But if the police officer tries to strike up a conversation with you about the past, having access to a suicide method, or having a suicide plan—you will not answer those questions. You will not be rude, but you will always firmly decline, with all due respect, to answer those questions—especially about the past. “I do not wish to discuss this matter.” Or, at least, answer indirectly and off-topic.
If you are asked any question by a police officer or a government agent and you realize that it is not in your best interest to answer, never ask the police officers what their opinion might be. In fact, do not ask any questions when you insist on the presence of a lawyer. Do not even use the words “I think,” “might,” or “maybe.” You need to say, with no adverbs, in only four words, “I want a lawyer.” And then you need to say it again, and again, until the police finally give up and realize they are dealing with someone who knows how our legal system really works (Duane, 2016).
This is your story’s peripeteia, where force-lifers repressed you. Not every problem has a solution, so as mental health “professionals” (i.e., faith healers) and their putative science. This part tells the story of fight with faith healers who want to fix your propensities. If faith healers have decided to put you into a psych unit (i.e., modern church), then the “smart” option is to go in willingly. Once they have made the decision you are going in, then you are going in—it’s academic as to whether you agree or not. You undeniably will be ensnared. If you go in willingly, you are likely to get out sooner. That should give a clear message that whatever you’ve been doing does not work anymore.
Legally robbing the choice
Firstly, anti-choicers take away the suicidal person’s 1st amendment by taking action against them for expressing suicidal intentions. Secondly, anti-choicers also violate suicidal person’s 2nd amendment (applies to U.S. citizens mostly) by taking away his or her firearms (either through red-flag laws or post-commitment). Thirdly, because of legal clause about exigent circumstances (exigency or emergency), they don’t even need a warrant to go into the person’s dwelling or residence to search for implements that are or could be used to commit suicide (methods and tools) thus pretty much overriding the person’s 4th amendment. Fourthly, anti-choicers override the 5th amendment, which is mainly due process under the law (i.e., innocent until proven guilty)—or, in this case, rational and sound mind until proven mentally defective. Of course, during an actual hearing (which is to determine whether an hold should be extended beyond it’s normal scope, in most places 72 hours) there is due process but not before the psych hold. Thus, those are just amendments that are violated by the government, never-minding the other laws broken through this “legal process.”
As for the laws broken, it would be breaking and entering, trespassing, intimidation, stalking, harassment, kidnapping, assault, and battery at the very least because law enforcement and other mental health professionals (if accompanied) with them would be going to the person’s residence without the consents of a person who resides in the residence on the grounds of exigent circumstances, while no crime was committed. Anti-choicers firstly traumatize their victim then give their victim a choice to go voluntarily or be taken by force for treatment. Either way, the person is going to be removed from his or her home, residence, or dwelling—while under duress. Assuming the victim refuses, law enforcement will use force to subdue, restrain, and bring the victim to the hospital or psych ward for evaluation. When there, the victim often has no credibility, because when someone is declared mentally ill, insane, or irrational their credibility is basically non-existent. Even suspected criminals have more credibility and, at least, some rights and dignities; they are treated slightly better than the suicidal persons. So suicidal persons are essentially guilty or considered irrational until proven otherwise. There is little to no recourse and such a stay, as well as refusal of such treatment or services, results in a hefty medical bill for the suicidal person. It’s not surprise that there are times where that would be the last straw that pushes the person over the edge when he or she otherwise would not have.
With regard to citizens and other mandated reporters (not necessarily law enforcement), basically, suicidal people are treated like second, perhaps even third, class citizens with limited protections and even having their space, privacy, and peace of mind violated. Anti-choicers harass and stalk the suicidal people just because of the notion of being “good Samaritans.” The victim, the suicidal person, would have little to no recourse. Yet, in most other circumstances, that would have been counted as illegal (if done on non-suicidal people). It’s as if someone is suicidal, then that person is no longer on equal rights, equal footing, or even considered a human and treated like an animal, a trash, or worse.
The paradox of getting help
In order to get help one must be ill and have to be honest (while risking the consequences such as being detained or locked up against one’s will for being 100% honest and frank). Yet, at the same time, if one isn’t completely honest (100% of the time), then he or she can’t be really helped—not that a therapist has solutions for practical, day to day problems, or even the deeper problems, such as existential, situational, philosophical, unless they also have life experiences or be a life coach which most aren’t. Hence, people cannot really get help without risking negative consequences (e.g., being locked up against one’s will, treated horribly and then left with crippling medical or hospital bills). There is no logic; it’s just basically them making up rules and applying them as they please.
As soon as you say the word “suicide,” mental health professionals (MHPs) can’t hear anything else you’re saying. Their attention has to go toward preventing your suicide. It’s context independent. They can’t actually even talk about these feelings openly for the purpose not feeling them anymore. They can’t work through them because of the incredibly strong drive to save all lives at all costs no matter what. MHPs don’t care about the reason.
What MHPs really do is not a genuine care and concern about patients. It is a genuine care and concern about lawsuits and their own personal guilt. Families have sued therapists when someone commits suicide. It can objectively really screw the MHPs’ day job. It has happened often enough that a zero-tolerance policy has been adopted by MHPs across the civilized world because of lawyers. Therapists take action to protect themselves against criticism, blame, or legal problems. It’s sensible to have a zero-tolerance policy on suicide topics, ideation, or even mentioning because it makes sense to protect oneself’s profession, livelihood, and even in some cases freedom or liberty (mandated reporters are required by law to report otherwise they face potential criminal liability from the state).
Returning to womb
In life, a male searches for his mother figure in females, and a female searches for her father figure in males. In psychiatric hospital, your thoughts will have enough time to immure you. To continue the search, when you have lost all hopes, those thoughts will take you back to the womb, where MHPs abstain you from entering.
MHPs defile your choice and expect you to expiate for your thoughts. In case of such suggestions, apostatize and convert to their rumored science—an evolution of religion. You’ll have to play along and pretend that it was just a passing cloud and that you’re getting better, whatever that means. Stay composed, well-presented, and well-kempt. Prevaricate and turn into their modern day form of religion to regain your freedom. 
Therapy or interrogation
This is what happens if you, as a patient, go in to talk about your life, your issues, or your problems. At first, the therapist, counselor, or MHP sits there, nods, and (pretends to) listens to what you have to say. In school, social work and counseling students are trained to formulate types of interactions and how to show empathy. They are trained how to show empathy—not how to feel it. During therapy, the MHP asks a question, usually just reflecting and rehashing the feelings that you described. A common one is "How does that make you feel?" Other questions include but aren’t limited to (wording can vary, too) "What would you do if you could get X (where X is what you wanted)?," "If you could do Y (where Y is what you wanted), how would you feel?," or "What are your plans on getting it, how would you go about it? (boomeranging what the patient asked)." This is the same pattern most definitely all the MHPs have, except with subtle variations. Some will suggest tasks like writing down a list of interests, other general boiler, or stock advice. These suggestions don’t work to solve whatever problems an analytical patient seeks to solve. MHPs are not life gurus or lawyers. They are not looking to solve your problems or to find solutions.
They do what is agreed to be done for pay in a professional and responsible manner: to get the patient to be a functioning member of society again and re-indoctrinate the patient into mass group-think that society has. Their job is seeking out a pattern and looking for behaviors to diagnose you or parse through what you said until the end to throw some advice or non-solution. Whenever you talk to one, they basically treat each of your statements like a cache of potential juicy information for them (to later diagnose and even force treatment on you). They fish for keywords, delve for red flags, and cruise for that opening to anchor you (including threat assessment, potentially involuntary holds, and psych holds). The more you talk, the more chances they have to extract (even through deception, trickery, manipulation, or mental games) information from you to potentially use against you. Sometimes, when you don’t cooperate, they apply pressure to get a specific answer or reaction from you so they could use that as ammo against you and build a case on you. It’s almost similar to being in an interrogation and the interrogator, police detective, decides to gradually put you at ease and into a false sense of security and trust. Your guard goes down and you lose your inhibitions and are more easily mentally and psychologically manipulated. After your defenses and senses are compromised and weakened, they go in (slowly most of the time) for the kill, like a hunter stalking its prey before pouncing on the prey. When you are in a state of a false sense of security, comfort, and trust, you are more likely to slip up and admit to things or make mistakes. These "mistakes" would then end up costing you your freedom, a hefty medical bill for treatment you never agreed or asked for (as a consequence of involuntary treatment and hospitalization). You would (almost) voluntarily do their job for them by incriminating yourself.
An MHP is not your buddy or super secret confidante. MHPs have to judge, for example, if you represent a threat to others. That is part of their job. They face real consequences if you fail them in protecting the society. In the case of the rare gem that does listen and have compassion for you, even then, he or she may or may not help with your problems and is still bound by mandated reporting guidelines. It is not a good idea to try to outsmart the MHPs. If you plan to do so, you are always playing with fire and one day in the future, you will (inevitably) get burned when your luck runs out.
MHPs have to actually care about you to be any good at their jobs and genuinely help patients—not to have a caprice for your money, under requirements for the sale of certain drugs. That gets exhausting if an MHP is taking care of 50 patients per week. And even if an MHP manages to do it—by selling certain drugs, for example—any keyword he or she is trained to look for completely blanks out their brains and they get too scared of law suits, so they have to hospitalize you instead of helping you (if they can help you). Then, the mental health hospital says they can’t do therapy with you, and you’ll have to work it out with your therapist. If you go back to the MHP still feeling suicidal due to lack of help at the hospital, the MHP will put you in the hospital, again. The loop between mental health hospital and MHP goes around and around. The pivotal part of the MHP’s job is to make sure the patient is not a danger to himself, herself, or others. Their objective is preventing death, not improving quality of life. You are the one who should come up with practical solutions to improve the quality of your life.
Psychotherapy is nothing more than an adjustment to a specific diagnosis. A psychotherapy consists of 3 steps:
(1) Invalidate and dismiss the patient’s claim as absurd, invalid, too high standard, or highly irrational thoughts;
(2) Gaslight (i.e., sow seeds of doubt), guilt, and shame to put you down and weaken you further;
(3) Redirect the patient’s problems (after dismissing them) and re-indoctrinate him or her into what society and government think it should be. The third step is basically forcing values—regularly, in the form of drugs—on the patient and even going as far as using threats to get the patient to oblige (in some cases, not all).
That brings us to how play their game on them.
Breaking free from psychiatric hospital
MHPs monetize misery and make a career out of alluding people into waiving their rights. MHPs have a vested interest in protecting their job, liability issues, legal requirements, and life achievements. They are mandated reporters; that is, if they have knowledge of belief that one pose a danger to oneself or others, they would break confidentiality and report said patient or person to the proper authorities, including having the person being locked up against their will. Thereby, therapy sessions are similar to interrogation, where what you say can and will be used against you. You are not committing a crime by attempting or committing suicide, but your credibility is already at stake—and you are presumed to be ill before you even make a case, so you have even fewer rights than a suspected criminal. There is also less legal protection on your end if somehow the MHPs decide to screw you over—whether due to a misunderstanding or if they are just malignant and on a power trip[Archive]. You could (theoretically) challenge the system and sue, but very few people have the time, money, and resources to seek justice—even then, it would be a costly victory.
Rather than facing them head on, it’s way too easy to play along with MHPs, given how fast the world is and how myopic attitudes are. First is showing a little bit remorse. MHPs want to have authority and to see that you’re tending to stand up on your feet—not too overconfidently, though. They want to see you have patience and appreciation. A person labeled mentally ill by society is the one that doesn’t conform with the majority view. A diagnosed mental health patient has only one problem: he or she doesn’t have the rest of the mental disorders. The disorders that shortage of them made his or her life hard. (You need to have all of the mental “disorders.”) Mentally healthy individuals are egoistic. They are so mentally ill that they don’t know they have mental illness. Because they’re social chameleons, they label themselves mentally healthy to disregard the possible existence of their mental illness. They suffer from anosognosia: an awareness lack of illness.
What you need to do is to be like everybody else and listen to anti-choicers’ proclaimed science. A couple of days later, parrot some of the anti-choicers’ rhetoric. No arguments! Asking for evidences, scientific papers, researches, or proofs will only make it harder for you. The outcome you seek may not happen; meanwhile, the MHPs use drugs with dangerous consequences in many cases of just having faith in they’re doing the right thing, but you yield to them and take your drugs. Try cooperating with the MHPs and show signs of “improvement” and “getting better”: be calm, coherent, organized, and collected. Agree to future appointments to break free from the MHPs that dug their claws of control into you. A lie is not a lie as long as you buy it yourself; then again, how deep are you willing to go to buy it yourself—forever?
Rights are not given; they are taken. If you want to get back on the MHPs who wronged you, accept your bright side that you found in the womb. If you keep living, it’s a draw for you and a win for the MHPs. But, if you win the lawsuit, it’s a win for you and a loss for the MHPs. And, if you die, it’s a loss for you and a draw for the MHPs. So, most of the times, it’s a lose-tie ending for you and a tie-win ending for the MHPs. In a healthy competition with the MHPs, your success may have legal consequences on losing their career. The healthy competition is when both parties are fighting for the money. Imagine what you can do if you defied a majority group and beat the MHP in court.
If they fear of losing, they may not let you have your freedom to win. That’s why the comme il faut decision is showing a staunch patience from the onset to have your freedom back, while, all along, you must stage your attempt as if the MHPs deliberately assisted you, gave you the “wrong” ideas, or helped you over the edge. You have every right to your own medical history and diagnosis about anything, including mental health. See risk management resource at PRMS such as 20 surefire steps to increase the risk of a malpractice lawsuit in here[1|2|3|4|5|6|7] or or risk management plans for private practice in here[1|2|3|4|5|6|7].
Every cloud has a silver lining so as your mental illness. In the light of your bright side, you will succeed.
The end of the war
Up until this point, you’ve been patiently overcoming ordeals to start an ordinary life in an unforeseeable future. You’ve been performing perfunctory procedures that had no purpose other than to entertain your thoughtless audience. Did you enjoy the long, tiresome, drag? Everyone has their own share of bad experiences with their audience. Bad experiences shaped you to become who you are. You’ve been the recalcitrance in entrenched anti-choicers’ religion. Now it’s time to reshape yourself by turning the page and writing a new chapter with new rules.
You live for yourself. You have the right to not-have-death-postponed or the right to pull-the-plug. You don’t owe anything to anybody. If anything is owed, you owe yourself to be elated, joyful, and contented, instead of being depressed, joyless, and discontented. That’s the common sense. No more being angry, anxious, and stressed. No more being isolated, being cold, and walking the streets. The remaining tips are affirmative approaches to liberate yourself from the anti-choicers’ hounds, to prepare yourself for the inevitable culmination—the unavoidable closure. In other words, this countdown to success helps you fast-forward your tumultuous life and mellifluously reset in peace (RIP). “Beloved, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from the desires of the flesh, which war against your soul. (1 Peter 2:11)”
- Groaning of the monkey mind: Stay away from negative people; they have a problem for every solution. If your attempts to lift someone out of negativity are unsuccessful, you have to move on. They will get to a better place when they’re ready to get to heaven, and no one will get there if they’re not ready, whether they are pushed or not. Entrance into dreamy heaven means no more suffering, no more tears, and a life depleted from pain and filled with joy. “If you don’t build your dream, someone else will hire you to help build theirs. (Tony A. Gaskins, Jr.)” 
- Becoming the hero of your life: Great athletes use visualization to increase their chance of winning. They have a clearly defined image of triumph. That image allows them to work towards triumph, knowing that they are heading in the right direction. “It always seems impossible until it’s done. (Nelson Mandela)” 
- Waiting for Godot: “What Are You Waiting For? It’s time. (Psychology Today)” Time stops for no one (except you). Plan realistically for your life by changing your social or moral standards; you’re the only one who can save yourself.
- Embracing fear and using it to your benefit: Be bold! Successful people consistently take one small step at a time in the direction of their dreams. They don’t delay for the discount, nor are they conditioned for a definite response. Once you have a success dream fixed in your mind, you can check activity against whether it moves you closer to your goal or away from it. By doing so, you can finish incomplete tasks and tie lose ends faster. 
- Finding your purpose: The meaning of your life resides in the most pointless and painful places you can think of: the moments you took the wrong turns in the course of your life. Those turns resulted from the justification you owed to your life—the burden of a gift you’ve been given—and the belief system that corroded your soul that you felt you must cling to. There’s no meaning except what you make out of it. (At least, you experienced being alive.) For many, it’s the feeling of being connected to a greater source—notably, in the face of adversities. 
- Dreaming of a bright tomorrow: Remember all those great times you had and all the things you hoped to be. The gap between the dreams you chased and the wry reality you have will be fulfilled by the meaning that you found as well as the expectations you leave behind. Making compromises will change the relentless reality in which you cannot sustain to live. In return, you’ll be free to choose whatever you want. 
- Termination of a difficult love relationship and beginning of a new one: “Come down from the cross and save yourself! (Mark 15:30)” You can’t live like this forever, except by connceting to the one. Everyday thousands of people come or go. One more or less doesn’t make any difference. Your passing away will be an extra occupied seat on the bus—and, everyday, the bus has many empty seats. Reach for the clouds. It’ll be you attempting one last ride to glory—one last journey into the empyrean. 
- Hic et nunc: You’ve been working hard to get here. You should appreciate your efforts. In your reverie, you’ll be reunited with your regressive desires. Being ephemeral is placing faith in the future, while being haunted by the past. Being eternal, however, is living at the now. This is the end of “a bad part” of your life in which you eked out an existence and tried your chance to make it “right.” This is to experience the mystery of universe and to explore what comes after, not to solve it like a riddle. You’ll feel overwhelmed love for our fellow humans, solidarity with all life, and a sense of oneness with nature and the universe. 
To summarize, the technique is, without taking any choices from you, brining you to now, where you already must be. Being at now requires ceasing the fight and accepting your life as it was. Then, encouraging you—not your self that doesn’t exist at now—to take whichever steps that taking them makes you happy. Choosing happiness at this state will probably end you—especially the ones who see themselves left out in the most proliferating era in human history. By the way, fear doesn’t stop you here.
Police and mental health
- Ling, S., Umbach, R., & Raine, A. (2019). Biological explanations of criminal behavior. Psychology, Crime & Law, 25(6), 626-640. doi: 10.1080/1068316x.2019.1572753 [PMC: 6640871]